Sext = sending flirtatious messages via text message, email, Twitter, Facebook, WhatsApp …or sending sexually explicit photos, or FaceTime sex…all this is sexting.
Is this cheating? A lot of people think it’s harmless. Here I will tell why it’s a very bad idea:
1 Just because you or your significant other don’t call it cheating, doing so can bring your relationship or marriage to an end.
2 Sexting is a form of flirting. Flirting is the first step in getting to know someone. Think about why you two got together, it probably involved a little flirting, it’s like the courtship. Would you be okay if your spouse was courting someone else? (I’m going to use the word spouse, but you can replace with fiance or boyfriend or girlfriend)
3 Trust is an important ingredient to a happy relationship. Sexting interferes with Trust.
4 If you wouldn’t do it with your spouse sitting right next to you, it’s probably not good for your marriage or relationship. I like to think this way about phone calls with the opposite sex as well. If you have to do it in secret or when your spouse is not around, it’s likely harmful and not pro-relationship.
5 As the saying goes: The grass is always greener where you water it. If you are sexting with someone who isn’t your spouse, you are watering the wrong lawn.
6 By focusing your attention outside your home, you will end up neglecting what’s inside your home. To keep it strong, your marriage and relationship will need all of the attention you can give it. Don’t waste your attention where it’s not needed.
7 When you flirt with someone else – either in person, on the phone, or digitally – you hurt your spouse’s self esteem. A spouse who feels this way is eventually going to check out, or you just won’t be getting the best version of your spouse. This will affect your overall relationship.
8 When you flirt with someone else – either in person, on the phone, or digitally – you make it harder for your spouse to feel sexy. A spouse who doesn’t feel sexy isn’t going to want to have sex or feel like they are sexual to you. And sex life has an impact on all of the relationship.
9 When you flirt with someone else – either in person, on the phone, or digitally – you cause your spouse to feel unloved. If your spouse does not get the love she needs from you, she’s going to be more likely to search for it somewhere else. Or her attitude is not going to be the best it can.
10 If you need a rush, try finding it with your spouse. The two of you can strengthen your marriage or relationship by solving this problem together.
11 If you don’t feel sexy, try talking to your spouse about the problem. The two of you can strengthen your marriage/relationship by solving this problem together.
BUT!!! There is ONE way sexting can help your relationship!. Do it with your spouse. Text “you are hot” to your spouse. Text “I can’t wait to see you naked” to your spouse. Everything you were thinking of sexting to someone else? Sext it to your spouse. Why not?
In fact, sext your Man or Woman right now! Just watch what happens, you may think it won’t be the same as with whoever else you wanted to sext with, or whoever else you have been in the past. And it won’t be the same, it will be better. Give it a go.